Use your words. Will you heal yourself and your neighbor with your words or literally kill with them? Some have suggested that suicidal tendencies come from despair, undue pressure, and bad words which one often speaks or thinks about him/her self or what one hears from others about themselves. Many say that a poor self image is among some of the causal factors of suicidal tendencies in ones life, career or business. I suggest that underneath a poor self image are negative affirmations (thoughts and words) entertained over time. But a positive self image and powerful affirmations can empower your words and make them heal your life and those around you. Developing affirmations that stick is a process one must willingly undertake and sustain over time.
The good news is that you can create a positive self image by using affirmations and positive self talk. But before we discuss that, let me explain what self talk is.
There’s a 2-way traffic of words that you use daily:
- Those you silently think in your mind but which bears fruit in the open, and
- Those you eventually say out loud from within you.
The two are not mutually exclusive. They interact with each other and condition your life. You can program your mind through affirmations and you can also program your tongue through your thoughts or word pictures. Many deep thinkers have suggested that perhaps the tongue is an extension of the mind and I am inclined to thinking that there is an element of truth in that. Say something repeatedly over time and you will believe it. Believe something over time and you will eventual utter it out loud. You choose what to repeat; either the negative or the positive. Self talk is what energizes your affirmations.
Now let us delve into how to perceive and develop positive self talk and affirmations.
The Power of Affirmations
According to Jack Canfield, affirmations assists one in avoiding self sabotage and transforms your comfort zone from a limited one keeping you trapped in mediocrity to a more expanded one in which anything is possible. He adds, that affirmations “helps to replace your “I cant’s” with “I cans,” and your fears and doubts with confidence” and a confident assurance of goodness happening to you.
Here are some ideas you can use to create your own affirmations:
- Imagine the direct opposite of a dire situation you want to change or imagine more of the present good you desire to keep.
- State it in the present tense by using “I am….” Write is down. For example, “I am so happy and grateful now that all things are working together for my good” is one of the affirmations I default to whenever I catch myself worrying about anything. Notice that “I am” invokes the name and power of God. Remember that you cannot use the name of God in vain. That is to say that whatever follows your “I am” must not contradict good or the nature of God. That is the law.
- Focus the affirmation on what is true and good and right. Think about things that are pure and lovely, and dwell on the fine, good things in others. I know, I’m also working on this part- it must be irrespective of their present behavior you loathe. Think about all you can praise God for and be glad about.
- Keep your affirmation brief and specific about a particular goal or goals in mind.
- Include a verb or an action word ending with “ing” and make it very emotional. Feelings help to shape your actions very fast.
Combine all the above and you can have an affirmation like this: ” I am so happy and grateful now that I am having the right mindset, skills and speed to successfully tackle my GRE examinations and attend a graduate school with great funding opportunities.” Isn’t this such a beautiful idea to hold in your mind while you devote yourself to a strict routine of practice for the test day?
You can also have an affirmation like this ” I am so happy and grateful now that I am developing the right mindset and skills to successfully build an effective network marketing team.” Especially in today’s Information Age, were we are expected to thrive by creating efficient networks of people through whom we can share useful information, this could be a very great idea to intone daily.
Feeling Grateful as Your Default Emotion
The feeling of gratitude nourishes your affirmations and helps you to become successful towards what you are constantly affirming in your mind or through your spoken words. Whenever you say “thank you”, you give yourself another chance to experience whatever you are grateful for. You can actually thank your way into achieving your goals. How? By assuming that you already have what you have prayed for, acted upon or even worked hard for. Feeling grateful as if the fact has already happened helps to draw it faster to you.
How can you practice this? Start by asking the question “what am I grateful for today?” and answer sincerely like this “I am grateful for the fact that…….” and see how doing this simple exercise will help to readjust your mind when worry wants to creep on you. See how it will also help to set you free and connect you to your abundant source of supply. Remember that there is more than enough of every good thing going around for everybody to benefit from. So unlearn that scarcity mindset now and start finding things to be grateful for all around you.
Grounding Affirmation with a Positive Attitude
You have probably heard the saying that “attitude is everything.” For me attitude is acting the role of my desire as though it has already been accomplished. I know for a fact that whatever I can freely imagine, I can also accomplish. To me that is faith. My brothers can joyfully tell you that this is how I operate, Leon Essegbey in particular tells me all the time that I have stubborn faith and it is true.
It takes a lot of effort and discipline to achieve any good thing in life. If you can’t back your affirmations with experimental or well calculated actions, you will never see tangible results. Even in the good book, the Bible, it is written that “faith without works is dead”– James 2:17. Wherever you stand, back your affirmations with focused actions.
With your words encourage, build, and bless. Remember we reap what we sow! So sow healing words. Let your affirmations yield productive results because you now know how.
“You only have control over three things in your life – the thoughts (built by affirmations that) you think, the images (word pictures) you visualize (constantly), and the actions you take”- Jack Canfield [Emphasis mine]